Cut Here

So I've added a new lyrics of the week. It's another Cure song entitled, 'Cut Here'. I like how he takes something fairly simple and makes it interesting. It's also a nice explorations of the choices we make, how we prioritize, and possible futures we leave behind.

I think on the flip side if you turn it upside down; what do you give up by not making the hard choices? I'll explain lest I seem esoteric. All of life is making choices. You always give up something. In this case he gave up a potential relationship for his career. But if he had made the other choice, if he is truly an artist he would have given up the true essence of who he is. So while he laments the lost possibility bigger ones await because he made this hard choice. Avoiding a tough choice is the same as making one, and you give something up there too. I think too often we give up things that are best for us for things that harm us. And in the end everybody has less.

The hardest thing to do is to remove the invisible binds, to cut the cord. You have a place where you fit in everybody else's existence. And they'll demand that you occupy that space whether it's right for you or not. So changing, trying to be a more perfect you, pisses a lot of people off at a subconscious level. It makes the world not feel right for them.

Family's strike the worst bargains. What they expect from you, what they demand you give up is the essence of who your are. They detest growth, they don't allow for metamorphosing. They'll deny you your potential for what is comfy for them. Even if they don't like you. They are quite unhappy about you making changes. Upsets the apple cart, threatens the pecking order, orphans their jokes which you are the butt of. Yet, perhaps as cruel as they can be in this regard, it is this payment in soul that you are most willing to pay for the demands of blood binds.

The sadness in this is that, if you ignore them and grow in spite of their efforts to keep you as you were, in the end everybody is happier, and better off for your actions. When time has elapsed, and they give up on the notion that the old you will return, they will make a new place for you if you want it. And if you don't, then it is a sign you made a very good choice. You should be who you are, no matter who the audience. It's for everybody's good.

And so either way you may pay a price. Maintaining status quo, preserving comfort in the place others have for you, you give up a bigger better you. But by making the effort to be you, by cutting those binds you gain more and in the end build a new structure that is more appropriate for you and a much richer life for those in your life.